Explore My Relational and Narrative Approach to Healing Informed by Parts Work and Mindful Self-Compassion

Using a collaborative, systemic, and narrative lens, I don't look at you, your partner, or your family as 'broken' or needing to be fixed. In our work together, we externalize the struggle: the person is not the problem; the pattern is the problem. Heavily informed by relational therapies, parts work, and mindful self-compassion, we will look at the broader stories, multi-generational scripts, and survival strategies playing out in your life. Our goal is to rewrite those narratives, breaking old cycles to build true relational health and wellbeing.

Narrative Therapy

A respectful narrative approach that views individuals as separate from their problems. We work together to externalize challenges and re-author your story toward your true values and strengths.

Mindful Self-Compassion

Our sessions incorporate principles of mindful self-compassion, combining gentle mindfulness with the active emotional support of self-kindness. Together, we learn to meet challenges and suffering with the same warmth and care you would naturally offer a dear friend.

My Practice is Informed by These Relational and Systemic Modalities

Parts Work (IFS)

Our work together can be thoughtfully informed by parts work, exploring the inner 'family' of various sub-personalities within your mind. We aim to better understand these different parts from a place of curiosity, calm, and self-compassion.

Relational Therapy

Relational therapy is built on the truth that we do not live, struggle, or heal in isolation—our well-being is entirely connected to our relationships. Rather than viewing distress as an individual flaw, this approach looks at the invisible patterns and generational scripts playing out between you and your loved ones.

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Individual Therapy

Your life is shaped by the stories you tell about yourself, but you are the author—not the struggle. In our sessions, we will look at your life with a new perspective, gently untangling your true identity from old narratives of anxiety or self-doubt. We will get curious about the protective, anxious aspects of your inner world to understand what they are trying to keep you safe from. By meeting these different pieces of yourself with mindfulness and self-compassion, you can safely rewrite your story moving forward.

I collaborate with my clients—individuals, couples, or families—navigating major life transitions, anxiety, and the weight of systemic issues such as climate grief. Whether you are a couple trying to break out of communication stalemates or a family weathering a major shift, we look at how these outside pressures shape your stories and impact your daily relationships. Together, we’ll untangle overwhelming cycles and find a steadier, more grounded way of moving through the world.

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Couples Therapy

Relationships thrive when we stop treating our partner as the enemy and start looking at the repetitive loops that keep us stuck. In our sessions, we will map out these patterns and gently explore the protective, reactive layers each of you brings to a conflict. By understanding your partner’s vulnerabilities, you can shift out of blame and rewrite a shared story of deeper connection. To achieve this, we will anchor your communication in mindfulness, helping you rebuild lasting trust.

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Family Therapy

Families are built on complex histories, but a single conflict or crisis does not have to define your entire family's identity. In our sessions, we will look at how the protective responses of each family member inadvertently collide with one another during times of stress. By introducing mindfulness and compassion into the family dynamic, we can quiet the blame and create a space for everyone to feel heard. Together, we will help your family break out of old, painful patterns and safely rewrite a supportive, connected story for the future.

Pinehurst Relationships: My Practice is Informed By Narrative Therapy

The Framework: Relational and Narrative Therapy

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You are the Co-Authors of Your Story

We all live within stories—the ones we tell ourselves, and the ones that play out among our partners, families, culture, and communities. When life or relationships get overwhelming, it’s easy to get trapped in a "problem-saturated story." You or your loved ones might find yourselves saying things like, “We just can’t communicate,” “They are the problem,” or “I always ruin relationships.” Over time, these rigid scripts make everyone feel stuck, blamed, and heavy. A Relational Narrative Framework is an empowering, collaborative approach based on one core, liberating truth: The person is not the problem; the pattern is the problem.

Shifting the Lens: Moving Beyond Blame to Healing the Patterns

Rather than viewing you, your partner, or your family member as a collection of symptoms, we see your struggles as something you are currently experiencing—not who you are. Together, we will look at the broader story of your relationships and collaborate to help you all step back into your roles as the co-authors of your shared life. We do this using a relational narrative framework:

1. Separate the Relationship from the Problem

When a relationship is strained, it’s easy to point fingers and decide that the other person is the issue. Instead, we externalize the struggle. We give the negative cycle a name—like "The Wall of Silence" or "The Tug-of-War." Putting distance between your loved ones and the issue stops it from feeling like a personal flaw. It shifts the dynamic from you vs. them to you and them vs. the pattern.

2. Spotting "Sparkling Moments"

When a couple or family is going through a tough time, it is easy to only see a history of conflict. Together, we will look closely for the hidden plot lines—the "sparkling moments" when the problem didn't win. Maybe it was a moment of unexpected laughter during a tense week, or a time you successfully teamed up against stress. These moments are proof that the conflict doesn't control your relationship 100% of the time, and they hold the clues to rewriting your future together.

3. Re-Authoring Your Shared Story

Once we uncover your collective values, strengths, resilience, and hidden history of connection, you get to decide what happens next. You transition from feeling trapped by a difficult chapter to becoming co-authors who decide what your relationship stands for. Together, you will write a new script for how you want to support each other and handle "The Tug-of-War" moving forward.

How This Approach Supports Your Relationships

1. It Reduces Shame and Blame

Because we externalize the struggle, you realize that neither you, your partner, nor your family members are defective. It stops the cycle of finger-pointing and internal guilt. You are simply good people navigating a heavy, complicated pattern together.

2. It Restores Shared Agency

It shifts your mindset from feeling trapped by your circumstances to realizing you have a choice. Together, you step out of the passenger seat and decide collectively how you want to respond to life's challenges, rather than letting old dynamics dictate your reactions.

3. It Unites Your Relationships

Whether in individual, couples, or family therapy, this approach changes the entire landscape. It stops you from viewing your loved ones as the adversary. Instead, it invites you to team up as a united front, combining your strengths to confront the "distance," "miscommunication," or "tension" that has crept into your world.

Your past chapters matter, but they don't get to dictate the rest of your shared future. Together, you have the power to re-author a story rooted in connection, understanding, and relational health.

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